Celebrate Differences

I guarantee that all kids need hugs and love and being told how great they are and how much they are cherished just because they exist. Beyond those basics I would say, based on my own experience, do what fits for each child.
Each child is unique and responds to everything in life in a different manner than that of his sibling. Whether or not you know it, you treat your kids differently. Yes, you do. Don’t take my word for it. Ask them. By the way--it is okay to treat them differently becasue they different people.