Knowing Your Child
Some parents think they know their teens pretty well. I suspect some actually do. On the other hand, adolescence is a time to find oneself, to uncover and discover who one really is inside--the True Self.
Consider that we each play roles in or lives: parent, child, sibling, friend, musician, artist, athlete, scholar, etc. In each role many people seem to follow a specific script just as they do when with different people. Many people speak and act one way with one person and very differently around other people.
With all that role playing people often lose sight of who they really are.
We hear the term,
"Act as if" in the self-improvement realm. We can successfully accomplish life changes by acting as if our world is the way we want it to be until it actually is the way we want it to be. The thing is, people act as if they are a certain way for so long they seem to become who they pretend to be.
Your teen may appear to be someone who actually bears no resemblance to who they are inside. Sometimes they do not even know themselves who that person is which is why teens go through a huge identity crisis. They think they have everyone fooled while thoughts like, "If they only knew the real me..." run silently through their minds. Of course thoughts, being real measuable energy, are never limited to the mind in which they are conceived. They go forth into the Universe where they are unknowlingly picked up, read and interpreted by others.
If you get gut feelings around your teenager, especially feelings of things not feeling good, ask your child how everything is going, how they are. Let them know you care about how they really are rather than how you want them to be. Your child's well being, maybe your teenager's life, depends on trusting your gut and asking questions.
Consider that we each play roles in or lives: parent, child, sibling, friend, musician, artist, athlete, scholar, etc. In each role many people seem to follow a specific script just as they do when with different people. Many people speak and act one way with one person and very differently around other people.
With all that role playing people often lose sight of who they really are.
We hear the term,
"Act as if" in the self-improvement realm. We can successfully accomplish life changes by acting as if our world is the way we want it to be until it actually is the way we want it to be. The thing is, people act as if they are a certain way for so long they seem to become who they pretend to be.
Your teen may appear to be someone who actually bears no resemblance to who they are inside. Sometimes they do not even know themselves who that person is which is why teens go through a huge identity crisis. They think they have everyone fooled while thoughts like, "If they only knew the real me..." run silently through their minds. Of course thoughts, being real measuable energy, are never limited to the mind in which they are conceived. They go forth into the Universe where they are unknowlingly picked up, read and interpreted by others.
If you get gut feelings around your teenager, especially feelings of things not feeling good, ask your child how everything is going, how they are. Let them know you care about how they really are rather than how you want them to be. Your child's well being, maybe your teenager's life, depends on trusting your gut and asking questions.
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