What Is Love

Your teenager will go through relationships with people they are sure are "the one." What attracts people to each other is underlying energy signals of which we are not aware. What you don’t know you don’t know is what gets you into the state of being stuck. Have you ever noticed that some people get divorced then turn around and marry the first spouse all over again--only the second spouse has a different name and face?
People attract who they are. Adolescents are looking for themselves, for their identity. As their self-image changes and they grow in maturity they will attract different people who are at the same point at each corresponding level.

The key is to love oneself. Since you are going to attract the person you are then be certain you are who you want to be. Most important, be sure you love yourself. It is not possible to love another without true self-love.
Guide your child to ask the questions that guide him or her to uncovering their True Self. Self-image runs lives. Self-images are usually inaccurate. Self-discovery is the path to freedom and really honest unconditional love.
If there are conditions in the relationship--if he or she is your love of your life then no matter how that person acts or fails to act is accepted. One single behavior, not necessarily liked or condoned, is accepted rather than judged when love is present. In a relationship where a behavior or action shuts down the love feelings--well, there was no unconditional love in the first place. Love is always unconditional. Anything else is just emotions, feelings, not love at all.
Building Adolescent Self Esteem is as simple as loving your teen unconditionally and teaching them to love themselves unconditionally before they can love another that way. Armed with that knowledge they will be spared the pain of broken romances.

Make Time For Your Teen

People are so busy today. The family dinner has, for many, gone by the wayside yielding to meetings, practices, just plain busyness. Stop and consider how short the time is that your child lives in your home. Think about the family situation you are modeling. Whatever you do as a family will be repeated by your children with their families. If you take time to be 100% with your adolescent every single day (even if only for 10-20 minutes) you will reap the rewards of his or her spending time with you after he or she has grown and gone. You are teaching him or her now how a family interacts. Do it consciously.
Virginia Satir was the first family therapist. She told the world that people need 4 hugs a day to survive, 8 to get by and 12 to thrive. How many hugs to do you give your child each day? How often do you say, "I love you."
Building Adolescent Self Esteem becomes an automatic process that comes with being aware of how you live each day. How often and how do you interact with the teenager in your life? Pay attention. You will find the effort to be well worth your while.

Learn About Building Adolescent Self Esteem

Building Adolescent Self Esteem is about consciously living, an aware life style. What is an aware life style, you ask? Well, consider that most people go through life on automatic. They do the same routine each morning, the same school or work routine, the same evening routine. Have you ever arrived at a destination without being able to recall how you got there? Each step has become as automatic as riding a bike. Once you "get it" you never have to think about how you do it again. So you could say that kind of life style, like bike riding, is one of unconscious living in a trance-like state.
What if you could assist your teen in recognizing how living on automatic keeps him or her from living a really happy and satisfying life? What if you could help your teen see a different more exciting vibrant way of going through each day? To do so would result in your teen living a different life style.
Sound like a chore? What is easier, making choices freely or being led around by the nose? You probably said being led around by the nose which his how most people live. But is life fun and satisfying when others make your choices? Does being told what to do feel good? Does it make you happy? If life is worth living then it is worth your energy to live it your way. If you agree then you want to read Parents, You Gotta Ask Questions: Building Adolescent Self Esteem to make that difference for your teen.

Where To focus

When most parents think about Building Adolescent Self Esteem they are reacting to a problem they see in their teen. Perhaps their teen is unhappy, not living up to his or her potential, depressed, unhealthy. What do most parents do? They focus all their energy on that single problem. They do not see their child as a whole person. They disregard or actually fail to see behaviors that do not fit the narrow definition they have created for their teenager. How could they possibly make a difference when the energy is being focused on the behaviors that already are disempowering and keeping the child exactly where he or she is?
Consider that looking at the whole person and who your child is being, how your child thinks and acts, creates the reality he or she lives. Rather than looking for what your child does and does not DO remember that he or she is a human being rather than a human doing. Focus on how his or her being in the world is attracting the results and life he or she lives.

Building Adolescent Self Esteem For Real

Building Adolescent Self Esteem is about consciously living, an aware life style. What is an aware life style, you ask? Well, consider that most people go through life on automatic. They do the same routine each morning, the same school or work routine, the same evening routine. Have you ever arrived at a destination without being able to recall how you got there? Each step has become as automatic as riding a bike. Once you "get it" you never have to think about how you do it again. So you could say that kind of life style, like bike riding, is one of unconscious living in a trance-like state.
What if you could assist your teen in recognizing how living on automatic keeps him or her from living a really happy and satisfying life? What if you could help your teen see a different more exciting vibrant way of going through each day? To do so would result in your teen living a different life style.
Sound like a chore? What is easier, making choices freely or being led around by the nose? You probably said being led around by the nose which his how most people live. But is life fun and satisfying when others make your choices? Does being told what to do feel good? Does it make you happy? If life is worth living then it is worth your energy to live it your way. If you agree then you want to read Parents, You Gotta Ask Questions: Building Adolescent Self Esteem to make that difference for your teen.